Sep 19 2008
Get Over It?
My marriage has fallen apart. I’m living with my In-laws. My husband lives in another state. I was left with no job and three kids to take care of. My kids are hurt. I’m hurt and extremely angry. I feel that I have every right to be and so does my kids. Yet, someone tells me to “get over it it’s not like anyone has died.”
No, no one has died but it sure feels like it. No, no one has died but a relationship has had an untimely death. I’m not ready to get over. Do you ever really get over a death? No, you just learn to accept it and deal with your grief. You learn how to deal with the hurt. The hurt will eventually lessen but right now it is still raw. Right now, I’m still grieving for my dead relationship. I’m still hurt and I’m still angry and I’m not going to just “get over it.” My kids are not going to just get over it. Our trust and our faith in other people’s promises have been broken.
The people who tell you to “just get over it” do not know how it feels to love someone and have them do you dirty and ruin your marriage. They would feel different if it happened to them, if they loved their hubby or wife. Plus you need the last chapter of the book to get over it. You can not get over something until it ends and in your case it is not over.